Have you ever seen trouble brewing or feared unpleasant consequences if a behavior or course of action wasn’t changed, but had no power to stop it from happening? The incidents can range from something minor like, “That is going to break if it isn’t put up,” to “Our family will be ruined if you don’t stop … ,” fill in the blank. The behavior continues, the consequence occurs, and we are left reeling and asking, “If I could see it coming, then why couldn’t I stop it, or why didn’t the person who could have stopped it listen to me?” (Read More)

A woman who had been a victim of an incestuous relationship with her father sat before me extolling the wonderful man her father was. After she paused, I asked, “If I brought before you a ten-year old girl and told you that every night her daddy did the same thing to her that your father did to you, would you describe her daddy as a wonderful man?” She began to weep, “But how else can I love him?” (Read More)